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What can I do to ensure I gain the most from my self-help books?

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June 16, 2019 / By Talulla
Question: I LOVE to collect and read my favourite self-help books on any problems I may be experiencing in my life. But, the problem is, I have so many books for more than just one problem. I want to gain the most I can from my self-help books and I feel that simply reading them alone is not enough. In addition to reading, is there anything else I can do to ensure I gain the most from my self-help books? Thank you for any advice you can give to me. (^_^)
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Renie Renie | 4 days ago
I've got a huge collection of self help books too. The very best way I have used them is to set aside a little time every morning and read and take notes on one book until I get through it (or at least a section that is relevant to me at the time). Then I choose one thing from that to focus on for the day. Writing it down helps to solidify it in your mind, it's amazing how you don't even really need to think about it but it will seem to stick. You can even write one thought on a card or something and carry it with you each day. The main point is to read with intention to have one main take away that you will USE.
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Renie Originally Answered: What can I do to ensure I gain the most from my self-help books?
I've got a huge collection of self help books too. The very best way I have used them is to set aside a little time every morning and read and take notes on one book until I get through it (or at least a section that is relevant to me at the time). Then I choose one thing from that to focus on for the day. Writing it down helps to solidify it in your mind, it's amazing how you don't even really need to think about it but it will seem to stick. You can even write one thought on a card or something and carry it with you each day. The main point is to read with intention to have one main take away that you will USE.
Renie Originally Answered: What can I do to ensure I gain the most from my self-help books?
Well in real therapy with an other person I say the more honest you are with yourself and the counselor the faster the progress. In self help I would suggest you take any situation during your routine day that makes you uncomfortable, hyper self conscious, irritated, sad, or whatever the perceived problem, and make a note of the situation and the negative feeling. Then later when you are comfortably situated at home dig into and reflect on the specific situation trying to find the root of the problem. Not always but often the uneasiness, fear, sadness, etc is from early childhood programing. Even if alone expressing your emotions, confronting your fears, etc. verbally will help diffuse their often [self] exaggerated importance. Also writing your feelings and then reading them and studying them at least one day later will help identify areas to work on. Make any goals you set easy to obtain. For example: I am shy and want to meet more people, but I can't do that when sitting at home by myself. I make my goal to go to the library or market and smile at one person. The next time maybe two people, and the third time I might say is that a good book, how do know if these are ripe? For my self, I found most of my insecurities had a similar pattern to them and were in this case centered in some negative childhood experiences-some were intentional and some were unintentional. If you care about the folks involved forgiving the person, not necessarily the specific action will help in finding shalom. Good luck and be well.

Mignonette Mignonette
Well in real therapy with an other person I say the more honest you are with yourself and the counselor the faster the progress. In self help I would suggest you take any situation during your routine day that makes you uncomfortable, hyper self conscious, irritated, sad, or whatever the perceived problem, and make a note of the situation and the negative feeling. Then later when you are comfortably situated at home dig into and reflect on the specific situation trying to find the root of the problem. Not always but often the uneasiness, fear, sadness, etc is from early childhood programing. Even if alone expressing your emotions, confronting your fears, etc. verbally will help diffuse their often [self] exaggerated importance. Also writing your feelings and then reading them and studying them at least one day later will help identify areas to work on. Make any goals you set easy to obtain. For example: I am shy and want to meet more people, but I can't do that when sitting at home by myself. I make my goal to go to the library or market and smile at one person. The next time maybe two people, and the third time I might say is that a good book, how do know if these are ripe? For my self, I found most of my insecurities had a similar pattern to them and were in this case centered in some negative childhood experiences-some were intentional and some were unintentional. If you care about the folks involved forgiving the person, not necessarily the specific action will help in finding shalom. Good luck and be well.
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Lexus Lexus
Hi! sure there is. you can keep index cards with you (in your purse, book bag, car etc) to remind you of certain key points you want to remember. Also, in the words of dr. m. scott peck...it's very good to employ ""stringent self examination." If you want certain results...keep checking "yourself" to see that you are following the appropriate path. try not to overwhelm yourself with too many books at one time, but if you really want to then try having a certain journal for each book. this way you can very easily reach for and reference the one that you are interested in at any given moment. these are my top self-help books...they have helped me come a looooong way in life! the seven spiritual laws of success, by deepak chopra life strategies by dr. phillip mcgraw the road less traveled, further along the road less traveled, and the road less traveled and beyond, by dr.m. scott peck and of course, last but NOT least The Holy Bible. Christs laws give us all we really need.."to do everything in the spirit of love!" I just want to add that in addition to applying the things from the books, plenty of rest, exercise and a great diet really help a person. Try to begin your day with prayer and water. I hope this helps you. ~~Stranger In My Heart~~(:.)
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Lexus Originally Answered: How can I help my boyfriend gain more confidence?
I had the exact same thing happen to me!, and I married the nice guy. But I got really tired of him making little comments, so one night I set up a romantic night (pampering him, cooking, lingerie ( if yall are at that step) massage things of that nature. I bought a card and wrote in there how he makes me feel and read it to him. He was really surprised, and it gave him the confidence to know that I liked him and no one else mattered. it was really romantic and now we have been married for 7 mnths.

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