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How to get rid of social anxiety?

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June 16, 2019 / By Aurora
Question: I am a boy, soon will be 18 years old and I suffer from social anxiety since early adolescence. I remember that when I was a child, I was a lot more sociable and I was never afraid of socializing. I used to go to group meetings, football matches...the social anxiety symptoms appeared at the age of 10 or 11 and they are only worsening with time. So I guess it's not genetic, but don't know why I have this anxiety. I don't remember any trauma or anything that would stop me from socializing. I only remember that when adults, like teachers and coaches told me I was doing something wrong, I had tendency to stop doing it. It's how I quit my football training and english course, both when I was 12 years old. I made a few mistakes, got told I was wrong and I felt like they were hating me and that I wasn't good enough to take the course or football training...but it happened after I had got my first anxiety symptoms. Now I regret quitting them, because maybe they would have stopped my symptoms from getting worse. But I was just a child then... A few symptoms I have currently are: 1. I don't use my phone other than to talk to my close family. It may sound weird, but I cant even talk to friends. If I have to call my doctor for example, I need to think what to say for a few hours in my head before I can find the courage to call, I'm afraid I will say something wrong or who knows what I'm afraid of. I don't know, I know this is wrong but I can't seem to get rid of it. I'm just afraid...but can't find out of what. I also try not to answer the house phone, sometimes I just ignore it when I don't know the number who is calling, or I get someone else to answer when they are at home. 2. I get stressed when I have to go out, even when I only have to go to the store. I think that everyone is looking at me and thinking: Look at that weirdo, look at what he is wearing etc... even though deep in my head I know its not true. I'm still afraid. 3. I have no problems to socialize through internet where people can't find my real identity. I can easily say jokes to friends I make in games, use bad words, insult them at an acceptable level for fun...but when it comes to real life I'm all silent. I can't even speak properly to people I don't know well. I can easily speak to a few good friends, but when it comes to other class mates who I don't usually talk to, I just listen to them in conversations, I don't even say a single word. No wonder why they stay away from me. I'm afraid to talk to people I don't know perfectly well, but why? I don't know. 4. I cancel many activities because of this fear. I wanted to take a course a year ago, I didn't because I knew there were going to be people I don't know there and the fear of meeting them kept me from attending. I wanted to go to a gym, cancelled the plans for the same reason. I don't go to parties because I think I'll be "the weird one". I don't go out with friends because I am afraid to, I don't know afraid of what. Oh and 5th, I am the best student of my school. My social fear doesn't stop me from reading books or getting good grades. I am almost perfect in every solo work, but I don't feel comfortable when working in groups. There are many more symptoms I have, but these are the main ones I guess. I want to socialize, but I am afraid to do it. I lack the courage... I have not been diagnosed by any psychologist but I know I have social anxiety. I have all the symptoms of it. I'm not confident, could this be the reason of my social anxiety? Or is the anxiety causing the lack of confidence? Should I see a psychologist, psychiatrist or try to treat myself? I've improved my confidence in the last months a bit, but not enough to get rod of my social anxiety. Please be serious in answers. Thanks :)
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Abbygael Abbygael | 3 days ago
i have been crying while reading this i am 17 about to turn 18 in a few months... this is exactly like me...and this is my story. this isn't very easy for me to say..my secret get's buried DEEPER AND DEEPER! but it is also get's worser.. i can't tell anyone...it kills me..pains me..i want to tell my issue im going through so badly but i just can't speak up..would they view me differently? would they hate me? i don't know..i'm afraid i don't know if i have it but all i can say that for all my life i have been shy and nervous and ANTI-SOCIAL! never speak up. i hate public speaking! my legs and hands my body would tremble in fear incase i get judged in a negative way. in my past years i have been bullied alot..name calling..pushed around. they even said everyone hates me and no one will like me. okay i really hate the people that says "look ahead and walk towards the future. start a new fresh life" easy for you to say but since i've been suffering with this issue. i am just CHANGING! in a very bad way.. sometimes i am really mad at god for making me like this and putting me down this earth for no reason.. because of this issue i find life pointless..everyday i live in pain and fear.. i grew so cold. i interest nothing anymore.. i really can't say much... but i do fear that i will get judged in a bad way or get pushed away...or people may find me weird of my words..... for a long time i've been lying to myself that and avoiding it! it just worsens... it changes to someone more negative from hiding this secret so deeply ..and the pain i get daily...kills my life... i hate being anti-social. i wish i could speak up and be like everyone else. getting involved in conversation and being happy..im never happy... i really don't know what to do..i think to much.. im starting to lose hair my mum thinks i am low on iron and no vitamins but really.....i am stressing myself out so much! i can't EVEN tell her that! pains me! how she is doing everything she can to help me taking me to get meds for my hair loss but but..she doesn't know.. all i want to know is that do i really have social anxiety disorder... also i feel very comfortable talking to people online.. no confrontation. no shyness. not nervous.. i can totally be myself and say whatever i want! i also talk to people from school and they say "why are you so quiet at school" ...argh.. i do talk alot online because i feel more comfortable but you all don't know how bad i feel that i can't even talk to people in real... i almost feel like i am the only one that has this.. because WHOEVER i see! is so comfortable and happy. and full confidents on public speaking i can't do that!. it's a lifetime of a challange!.. i've been fighting it off all these years...avoiding it.. now im 17 about to turn 18.. it's killing me.. i can feel it that it's getting worse and worse.. one reason why i am writing this question here.. i need to know... my emotions..idk..i don't think i have a heart anymore that's all i can say.... once this girl told me to "talk" my heart suddenly started racing and i started thinking so much and i couldn't really find anything to say.. i just don't know..it affects my education! my learning! it affects nearly everything in my life.. at home i am comfortable..i yell. i scream. i shout. i talk...in public or around strangers i am very quiet.. i just need to know if i am just shy and quiet or i have social anxiety disorder for short (SAD) and yes i am sad... haha.... i don't think i remember the day i was once happy... i just live in my own dark world i guess... but i am here to ask you guys WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THIS DO I HAVE SOCIAL ANXIETY DISORDER? what should i do? what is wrong with me? who should i tell when i can't tell anyone.. maybe i just can't tell anyone cause they will never UNDERSTAND me! NEVER!... :( sorry.. i am just really depressed even now as i write this... (sorry i know my story wouldn't make you feel any better but i am just showing you that you are not alone...i thought i was lonely and alone and i thought i was the only one that i had this but EXACTLY AS YOU DESCRIBED IN DETAIL ON HOW YOU ARE SUFFERING I AM THE SAME! DW! ) i can't even talk to people i just listen..... this sucks i know...but people like us should seek help asap. that's what i think i have been getting really worse these days...i am breaking down in my dark room crying..for a long time...and thinking to cut myself but i know that would be such a stupid of me and i know i will regret it.. treat yourself won't work..i fight back many many years my friend..just like you said it kicks in at a young age same here.. online I HAVE CONFIDENTS! I TALK ALOT! I BE MYSELF! I SAID STUPID **** but that's just people like us that suffer from this and lack in speaking in public because i am shy and nervous..and i don't know what to say.. and i do believe i suffer from this...it pains me..it kills me...i almost come to a point that i can't handle it anymore...i buried this secret so deep inside....i can't even tell anyone..one reason why i feel so lonely...and so worthless.. but listen here im gonna try my best to speak up to my mom and probably see a psychologist.. i'd suggest you the same..
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Abbygael Originally Answered: How to get rid of social anxiety?
i have been crying while reading this i am 17 about to turn 18 in a few months... this is exactly like me...and this is my story. this isn't very easy for me to say..my secret get's buried DEEPER AND DEEPER! but it is also get's worser.. i can't tell anyone...it kills me..pains me..i want to tell my issue im going through so badly but i just can't speak up..would they view me differently? would they hate me? i don't know..i'm afraid i don't know if i have it but all i can say that for all my life i have been shy and nervous and ANTI-SOCIAL! never speak up. i hate public speaking! my legs and hands my body would tremble in fear incase i get judged in a negative way. in my past years i have been bullied alot..name calling..pushed around. they even said everyone hates me and no one will like me. okay i really hate the people that says "look ahead and walk towards the future. start a new fresh life" easy for you to say but since i've been suffering with this issue. i am just CHANGING! in a very bad way.. sometimes i am really mad at god for making me like this and putting me down this earth for no reason.. because of this issue i find life pointless..everyday i live in pain and fear.. i grew so cold. i interest nothing anymore.. i really can't say much... but i do fear that i will get judged in a bad way or get pushed away...or people may find me weird of my words..... for a long time i've been lying to myself that and avoiding it! it just worsens... it changes to someone more negative from hiding this secret so deeply ..and the pain i get daily...kills my life... i hate being anti-social. i wish i could speak up and be like everyone else. getting involved in conversation and being happy..im never happy... i really don't know what to do..i think to much.. im starting to lose hair my mum thinks i am low on iron and no vitamins but really.....i am stressing myself out so much! i can't EVEN tell her that! pains me! how she is doing everything she can to help me taking me to get meds for my hair loss but but..she doesn't know.. all i want to know is that do i really have social anxiety disorder... also i feel very comfortable talking to people online.. no confrontation. no shyness. not nervous.. i can totally be myself and say whatever i want! i also talk to people from school and they say "why are you so quiet at school" ...argh.. i do talk alot online because i feel more comfortable but you all don't know how bad i feel that i can't even talk to people in real... i almost feel like i am the only one that has this.. because WHOEVER i see! is so comfortable and happy. and full confidents on public speaking i can't do that!. it's a lifetime of a challange!.. i've been fighting it off all these years...avoiding it.. now im 17 about to turn 18.. it's killing me.. i can feel it that it's getting worse and worse.. one reason why i am writing this question here.. i need to know... my emotions..idk..i don't think i have a heart anymore that's all i can say.... once this girl told me to "talk" my heart suddenly started racing and i started thinking so much and i couldn't really find anything to say.. i just don't know..it affects my education! my learning! it affects nearly everything in my life.. at home i am comfortable..i yell. i scream. i shout. i talk...in public or around strangers i am very quiet.. i just need to know if i am just shy and quiet or i have social anxiety disorder for short (SAD) and yes i am sad... haha.... i don't think i remember the day i was once happy... i just live in my own dark world i guess... but i am here to ask you guys WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THIS DO I HAVE SOCIAL ANXIETY DISORDER? what should i do? what is wrong with me? who should i tell when i can't tell anyone.. maybe i just can't tell anyone cause they will never UNDERSTAND me! NEVER!... :( sorry.. i am just really depressed even now as i write this... (sorry i know my story wouldn't make you feel any better but i am just showing you that you are not alone...i thought i was lonely and alone and i thought i was the only one that i had this but EXACTLY AS YOU DESCRIBED IN DETAIL ON HOW YOU ARE SUFFERING I AM THE SAME! DW! ) i can't even talk to people i just listen..... this sucks i know...but people like us should seek help asap. that's what i think i have been getting really worse these days...i am breaking down in my dark room crying..for a long time...and thinking to cut myself but i know that would be such a stupid of me and i know i will regret it.. treat yourself won't work..i fight back many many years my friend..just like you said it kicks in at a young age same here.. online I HAVE CONFIDENTS! I TALK ALOT! I BE MYSELF! I SAID STUPID **** but that's just people like us that suffer from this and lack in speaking in public because i am shy and nervous..and i don't know what to say.. and i do believe i suffer from this...it pains me..it kills me...i almost come to a point that i can't handle it anymore...i buried this secret so deep inside....i can't even tell anyone..one reason why i feel so lonely...and so worthless.. but listen here im gonna try my best to speak up to my mom and probably see a psychologist.. i'd suggest you the same..

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Oz Oz
Sounds like you are confusing anxiety with self confidence and fear of failure. You should know that you're not so different than many, many other people your age. You have to believe that if you try something and it doesn't work out well, it is OKAY. You can either try another way/method, find help to guide you and be proud that you DID try your best. Failure can be good because it is a learning tool. Do you know how many people tried something difficult, failed at it, tried another way and had SUCCESS? Countless people: inventors, researchers, builders. Try staying away from too much interaction with ppl on the internet. Try to learn new things that you can tell your peers; you can impress them with your new knowledge. Everyone respects smart ppl; don't be a smart aleck, though. Good luck ------ be PROUD
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Lew Lew
In this case you are going for the goal of an anxiety free life. You reach a point where you are completely fed up with this condition and that mindset can produce a real breakthrough. Remember anxiety holds us prisoner because we give it authority. We give it control because it threatens us with terror/death if we do not obey. Turn this situation on its head. Really chase after the anxiety. It is the anticipation of having a panic attack that keeps you in a general state of anxiety, -so end the anticipation. Click Here: http://youtu.be/4Jd-0vc1xCw
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Jankin Jankin
I am so happy, it was only a 35 minute drive ( 70 minutes total) but absolutely no sign of anxiety or panic i shopped till I dropped - brilliant! I will now go for the next stage DUAL CARRIAGE way, probably at the weekend, with my husband accompanying me first then the solo drive, if successful the final stage of driving on motorway Beat Anxiety And Panic Attacks Naturally?
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Jankin Originally Answered: Does foreigner easy to get a social work license and find a job as social worker in USA?
You have asked a very hard question here, because it is several questions rolled into one. In reality there are several variables which impact how difficult it can be to both "get a social work license", and find a job as a social worker. Here are the issues. Here some social workers are licensed and others are not. Both can enjoy jobs at the level their education allows. ( I am speaking only of California, though believe it is not terribly different elsewhere). So your First question about licensing will depend on where you get your education. If you take your social work master's degree here, you will be gaugaged on your skill and abilities. If you take your Master's abroad be aware that there have been problems with such degrees being honored by state licensing boards. To them if you did not graduate from one of their "accredited schools" you do not meet their minimum standards. The second question is that of licensing. If you have a degree recognized by the licensing boards, (usually one associated with the NASW ...National Association of Social Workers) you will qualify to take the test for licensure after you have acquired the number of clinically supervised hours of social work. Once you have those hours you may to apply to take the state test for Licensed Clinical Social worker, which entitles you to practice in the state which issued the license The third issue is that of a work Visa. It is currently very hard for foriegners to get a work visa unless they are hired before they arrive in the US. In this case the company vouches for the employee, who is still limited in his time of stay by the restrictions of his/her visa. It is often easier to get a Student Visa... Study in America earning the degree in Social work recommended by the accrediting body, and meet those for job networks while in the US. After graduation and after Student visa expires, you can captialize on your newtorking while in school, to get you either a work visa, or fiancee visa ( should you meet your soul mate while in school). Finally the last question rolled up into your intial one is that of qualified foriegners being hired as social workers. If you take the route to NON-licensed but still master's qualified social worker, you would be easily hired at a number of places, provided your local language skills are up to task. I am the administrator for a 7-14 social worker private children's agency, and have hired for my staff one Kenyan, one Cambodian, One Lausian, one Mexican, one Assyrian, 2 American Caucasians, and one Russian. My point is that in social work there are a large number of "niches" where someone with specialized language skills can be of extreme value! So to finally recap, The hardest part of what you ask is initial entry into the US on an appropriate Visa. Secondly much depends on whether you are just beginning your education or finished. (this influences strategy greatly) The question of whether it is important to your ultimate goals to pursue licensure is a very real question. You will not need it to practice social work, but to capture the best job options it is VERY useful. And finally, People of all bents, all races, nationalities, and backgrounds make the field of social work rich. In California, USA, People are hired for jobs based on their ability to fill the needs. If you specialize in a language, find the place where that need exists... (And it does in most major cities), and chase the dream. (For me that dream is to be gainfully employed in a field of your choice............that you are passionate about. Without passion, an occupation is merely a job to be endured. I hope this helps. Feel free to ask if you have other questions. Robert

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