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Father's in jail/prison? Topic: Son write letter to father
June 16, 2019 / By Hephzibah
Question: Do you think a father who is in jail or prison should lose all his parental rights to his child?? I asked this question last night and wanted to ask it again today since I didn't get alot of responses on it. The reason I am asking is because my brother is currently in prison for drugs and yesterday I was talking to my nephews mom and she wants to try to strip my brother of all his parental rights,well my brother is really a wonderful father,who loves his sons, he has just made a bad choice in life,he writes all the time,he also gets out on kind of a work release thing and sends her and his other sons mother the money he makes.She has 5 kids all of whom have different fathers,my nephew is the 4th child and she gets child support for 3 of them,plus money from my brother well she doesn't work and lives off the child support.We have had so much crap from her.His other sons mother is wonderful she is a friend of mine from high school she has never tried to do anything like this. I was just wondering what every ones opinion of this situation is??
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Earline Earline | 3 days ago
I think you are right, we all make mistakes and from what it sounds like she is no saint herself. I don't think he should have his rights taken away for drug possession, if it was rape or something like that then it would be a different story. Not many fathers in prison send their kids anything. My father was in prison my whole childhood, my mother was and still is great, I really don't have any feelings for my father he never sent us anything not even a letter, so tell his sons mom to get over and take a good look in the mirror before she takes his rights away, she should be grateful he is sending something to support his son, I know the prisons don't pay that great either, so if he's willing to give up his only source of income in there, it sounds like he's a pretty good dad to me.
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Earline Originally Answered: Father's in jail/prison?
I think you are right, we all make mistakes and from what it sounds like she is no saint herself. I don't think he should have his rights taken away for drug possession, if it was rape or something like that then it would be a different story. Not many fathers in prison send their kids anything. My father was in prison my whole childhood, my mother was and still is great, I really don't have any feelings for my father he never sent us anything not even a letter, so tell his sons mom to get over and take a good look in the mirror before she takes his rights away, she should be grateful he is sending something to support his son, I know the prisons don't pay that great either, so if he's willing to give up his only source of income in there, it sounds like he's a pretty good dad to me.

Celia Celia
no, he should not have his rights terminated. without knowing the situation...perhaps he just ran into a bad time in his life and made some serious mistakes. Hopefully he will learn from something from all this and come out a better person. Next, she cannot terminate his rights...only a judge can. And if she has all these kids and no real work history then she is probably on some sort of state assistance and they will not allow his rights to be terminated as when he gets out he will have to pay the state child support for what they paid her. it almost sounds like her rights should be terminated.
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Annitta Annitta
The desire to be a father is still in this man, despite his mistakes. He seems to have time to think about what he has done and what means most to them. It appears as though his family means the most to them. In my opinion I do not believe she is justified in taking away ALL rights of a father away from him. I can understand her carefulness though. Perhaps when he is out there could be supervised visits and if he agrees to attend parenting classes and drug rehabilitation then that could prove even more. I do not know the history of this man or this woman, I do not know who would be the better parent. But based on the info you have given, I say there is a good chance of him benefiting his children as a father when he is out of the pin.
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Yancy Yancy
How 'bout she has her "parental rights" striped away for being easy? I'm sorry, people make mistakes, yes we all do, we all know it. We can either learn from them or be ignorant to them. Its a choice. Her choice to open her legs (I'm assuming WAY more than 5 times) to any Joe that comes along, which has apparently resulted in the 5 pregnancies.... has been a choice that she finds acceptable. But its not and neither is being on drugs. Neither one should have parental rights to these poor kids who are growing up in dysfunction. In the event that your brother decides being a father is more important than getting his next fix or whatever he was on, then maybe his rights to be a father could be accepted. As long as he holds drugs above his kid than he shouldn't have rights. And she shouldn't have rights either for being a tramp and a leech off of our government. I hope your brother learns his lesson in prison, gets his life together and takes this child away from her. He has to smarten up or this kid will grow up just as messed up! Who knows what those kids are seeing on a daily basis...different men leaving mommas room no doubt. Thats not any way to raise children. Your brothers in the right place if he wants help and to take advantage of this opportunity to fix his mistakes. If he loves his child as he says he does..then he'll fight for himself to get better so he can take care of his poor son. Good luck to your brother..its hard to get back on your feet...I hope he makes the right decissions!
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Shelley Shelley
A man who is in prison for drugs didn't just make a "bad choice". If he hadn't been caught, he would probably still be using drugs, which puts his children in danger. The welfare of the child must come before the selfish desires of the parents.
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Shelley Originally Answered: How do i find out which California Prison someone is in w/ just their name?
Without his date of birth or "cdc number" the Prison Locator can't look him up. I checked under California V Aldrete, and couldn't find anything either. If this happened in Long Beach, contact the L.A. County District Attorney's office, they may be able to help you research the case, and see if you can find his CDC number. http://da.co.la.ca.us/

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